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New Year, New Outlook on your wardrobe

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Do you need a fresh new outlook on your wardrobe??

 

If so please ignore the New Year, New You.

 

You don’t have to reinvent yourself this year to feel good about yourself.

But instead, I would suggest to welcome in and consider the power of upgrading your outlook and approach to how you get dressed.

If your ambition for 2022 is to feel like you are in charge of your future and to shake off the last few years then feel free to use these 5 sayings below to get you out of a style rut.

Switching out the funky, old sayings like ‘I have nothing to wear’ or ‘i’ll loose the weight first’ or ‘my body is the wrong shape’ or ‘I have no where to go’ and re-packaging it to work in your favour is the true meaning of empowerment.

These negative phrases are often not even our own and in fact we’ve inherited them from our mothers and grandmothers.

We also say them so often and off the cuff that we don’t realise how they shape our view of our reflection.

It can be hard work and takes a little time, self-forgiveness and an eagerness to learn however my 5 postitive sayings below are a great place to start.

Take a look and see which one resonates with you. Perhaps you could write it on a post it and put it on your mirror to remind yourself of your new outlook.

Here are 5 positive sayings that you can use when approaching your wardrobe to get you out of a style rut and into your style flow:

 

1. I don’t have to wait to be thinner to feel great

2. How can I have more fun with this?

3. I can be alone and get dressed for me

4. What items have I forgotten I own?

5. What do I need to learn next to build my style confidence?

 

BONUS PRO TIP I use when I’m feeling stuck with what to wear:

Ask yourself ‘Who do I admire, if they approached my wardrobe what would they be pulling out of my wardrobe to wear’.

 

REMEMBER  if you can work with what you’ve got and make the absolute best of it you’ll start to see that successful style is really all about having a positive mindset, taking directed action AND a big dose of  self- compassion (not one of my greatest skills!)

I also think a more empowered outlook is a much needed switch from the last 2 years when our style, our polish and the care in our appearance has been notably downgraded, if not disappeared altogether.

From what I’ve seen over the years from working up close and personal with my clients it the upgrading of our view of ourselves is the secret to having great style.

Wishing you all a more energised, uplifting and postive 2022!

 

You can see the original post of this ‘5 postitive sayings to use’ on my instagram page HERE  and if you would like some practical help with your style then drop me an email at loulou@thestylingstorey.co.uk.

Let’s book in a free call to discuss how I can help you have more fun with getting dressed.

 

What I learnt from interviewing Kitri Studio: The secret to being distinctive everyday

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Can you dress distinctive and unique everyday?

Is it even possible to showcase you, to be original everyday, to shine at your best day in day out?

Or is this a ridiculous standard and perhaps more importantly an exhausting commitment to try and be different, distinctive and unique everyday?

And after interviewing Kitri founder, Haeni Kim I think Kitri is the brand that could help you feel distinctive.

Kitri is not just another brand offering more of the same. Kitri is offering a solution to your everyday style challenges. That ongoing challenge of how the hell do you look good for work and feel glamorous for that evening event.

Lipstick could give you a helping hand, a pair of heels in your bag might also ramp up your energy but in fact what Kitri is offering is that you start your day in an item of clothing that will give you confidence that will endure. It will bend and shift to your whole day and ensure that you are expressing YOU with wild abandon.

But hold on a minute before you go shopping…..

Follow these 3 steps to achieve style distinctiveness

I believe it can be done but it takes a few steps:

Step 1: INSPIRE yourself. You need to understand what it is you love and the direction you want to take your style in. Check out my own Style Revolution board on Pinterest to inspire you to start your own board.

Step 2: FOCUS your attention on finding 3 new pieces that you will WANT to wear everyday and that make you feel excited to put on, that give you that ‘ooooh yea’ feeling. Really hone in on what is missing from your wardrobe and is going to inspire those dark winter mornings.

Step 3: MIX the new with the old. I see it happen a lot people go on a big shop and then they only wear the new but to really elevate the old they’ve got to work together.

These 3 steps will make being distinctive everyday a lot more achievable because you are less likely to make mistakes .

Here are the 4 pieces that have stolen my heart:

Isadora Silk Midi Dress

 

Roland Tuxedo Jumpuit

 

Odelie Red Wrap Dress 


 

Pink Cable Knit hoodie

Enjoy exploring a new brand today and find your very own distinctive and unique style that will ensure you look good at 8am and 8pm!

To Listen to the interview click HERE

To find more of Kitri Studio pieces visit their site here:

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The power of good tailoring: What I learnt when I interviewed Polly McMaster of The Fold, London

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‘Tailoring has that ability to transform your everyday confidence’.

To many, The Fold London is just for celebrities and Duchesses, women that have status within the public eye. However after an evening interviewing the brand’s founder Polly McMaster at Home House, London I learnt that it is a brand not just creating beautiful clothes but in actual fact empowering the everyday working women to thrive in the workplace.

I was amazed at how The Fold is a brand steeped in attention to detail, quality, integrity, empowerment and community. Big and powerful words that I don’t use lightly but I do use passionately after hearing, seeing and experiencing Polly’s vision of the company.

For retailers today, its no longer enough to just have beautiful or fashionable or desirable clothes to engage the customer. Brands have to come with a message, a vision and constantly provide a solution to their everyday dressing.

That is exactly what Polly and her team are doing.

The Fold is helping women in the workplace find tailoring that gives them the power they deserve to truly hold their heads high and do a bloody good job. To get dressed everyday by buying into an edited collection that supports their goals and dreams for the future.

Offering clothing that elevates their standing but isn’t at Stella McCartney prices. The Fold understands that when a piece of clothing is worn that has had every detail considered, has been cut beautifully, has fabric from the highest quality mills. All mixed with a fresh and modern aesthetic, a women will be able to stand out from her peers in a sophisticated and elegant way.

There clothes are for women with an ambition and a dream but also want allow their individuality to shine through.

Why don’t you check out my favourite pieces from their current collection to elevate your working wardrobe.

The sharp but feminine coat – The Clarendon Coat

 The non-party party dress – Eaton Dress

The classic dress with the rebellious twist : The Fitzrovia Dress

A sculptural addition to the Classic Camel Coat : The Napier Coat 

The Unexpected Modern Suit : The Donmar


The week to weekend Top : The Fitzroy Top

 

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This blog post has the best shopping tip EVER.

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I bet your inbox is currently full of the latest items to buy? Full of shops pulling you into buy the latest trends.

But you are still left feeling lost about what to buy and overwhelmed with choice but underwhelmed with what you find?

At this time of year there is so much talk of party wear and the plethora of sequinned and bejewelled pieces that we fall for but we know from years gone by we only wear once.

We can get so excited about the glamour of it all; The wining and dining and the social occasions fill our calendar to the brim but it does bring with it more stress on what to wear.

An expensive time of year when we don’t need to waste any more money.

So how do we get better at shopping?

and ensure that we buy clothes that last beyond the festive season? 

I learnt this trick recently and now teach it to those I work with and I would like to share with you.

So here we go….

Ready???

The secret to successful shopping is to:

‘Search for the treasure’.

Now I’m not encouraging you to become a pirate although maybe a fashion pirate could look quite cool but to give you more clarity let me set the scene:

It’s Tuesday morning, You have a party on Thursday night after work. You know you should have worked out what to wear but it just felt overwhelming so you kept pushing it to the back of your mind but now the time is pressing. You’ve got to get it sorted

You have 3 options:

  1. Wear the same black sequin top with your jeans that you’ve worn to every party for the last 3 years and is going bald from the sequins falling off.
  2. Head to the shops and see what they have and hope you find something (in the 45 minutes you can free up).
  3. Don’t go to the party.

Now the third option is a consideration but not really an option as its a work do. You have to show willing to your team and there are some interesting people there that you want to meet.

On to the first option which is doable but it fills you with a sense of heaviness and ‘not quite rightness’. A balding sequin top isn’t filling you with Xmas cheer.

So the second option it is….again! Off to the messy shops we go, not knowing where to start or what to buy.

Your wardrobe is full of clothes that you bought in a hurry, that solved a problem in the moment but has caused you disappointment long term.

So to ensure you don’t keep repeating the same problem over and over again go shopping with the intention that ‘Theres always one special treasure to seek out’.

To ensure the ‘it’ll do pieces’ stay away from your wardrobe and you only buy items that successfully express YOU then start searching for that special piece on the rail.

The item that will help us to feel unique and true to ourselves does exist, I promise!

The power of going shopping with the intention of finding that one special item on the rail helps us to enter the shops with positivity and hope. Something that is missing when people hit the shops as opposed to the usual desperation and disappointment that so many have.

Search for the treasured piece, the item that will add magic back into our lives and skim over the ‘it’ll do pieces’.

When you enter the shop, enter with curiosity and with the intention that you are there to find your treasure. The piece that will help lift your outfitting and your soul. The piece that when you put it on year after year you shout YES!

The reason that this trick works so well is because of 2 reasons.

First you are shopping with a positive intention, that energy and focus will reward you. The more we set intention in our lives the more we will get back exactly what we want and need. You are setting a higher standard for yourself.

Secondly you are connecting with yourself, your identity and your needs. It becomes a personal mission not just a practical fulfilment. When you try clothes on, it no longer is a question of ‘it’ll do’ but instead gives you the ‘ooooooooh yea’ feeling. Follow that!

Important note: If you walk around the shops with this intention and curiosity and you only come across ‘it’ll do’ pieces then you are in the wrong shop. Its time for you to find a new shop to treasure. Widen your search and step in somewhere new!

Good luck with your hunt, your mission and finding your treasures.

& once you get to the party have a boogie for me!!

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6 ways to rediscover your identity

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Credited Hattie Stewart

Have you lost your sense of identity? Do you know how to find it?

It’s amazing what we put up with. Day after day living a life that only just will do and feeling disconnected from our identity. I see it over and over again, incredible women who allow themselves a second rate life, allow themselves to sit in the shadows and hide away in clothes that are ill fitting, worn out and confirm their feelings of unworthiness.

Recently I was working with a truly beautiful and inspiring women who i’d been coaching for the last few months. She’d come to me at her lowest ebb but she’d been open to finding a new path.

There we were on the Kings Road in Peter Jones, a couple of hours into her session. She was trying on clothes she never thought she could pull off or have the confidence to wear, when she suddenly turned to me and said with a touch of sadness & regret; ‘i’ve just realised I’ve been hiding in the shadows for 20 years’. We paused for a moment both of us with a lump in our throats and as that sunk in her look changed to one of determination and she said ‘no more’.  With that the style lesson stepped up a notch and we really got to work on carving out the confident identity she had been desiring for so long.

It really is possible to see yourself in a new light, one you never thought possible. It may feel overwhelming but it actually just starts with a few small steps:

1. RECOGNISE & ACKNOWLEDGE

Coming out of the shadows begins with an initial moment of recognition that you are not where you want to be. It has to start there, with honesty & vulnerability.

2. INVITE CHANGE

So often we replay the same day over and over but is it actually working for you? Welcome in a new way of living and get some momentum going by starting with a small switch. Put some earrings back into an old piercing, wear an alternative pair of shoes to your normal choice, spritz a different perfume.

3. HAVE AN OOPS MOMENT

An oops is better than a what if. Give it a try and don’t beat yourself up about it. Reconnecting with what makes us feel good means that we have to make some mistakes. It’s not how often you get it right, its how open you are to self discovery.

4. POWER DRESSING

This is not 80’s corporate suiting i’m talking about. Power dressing is the items in your wardrobe that really shape your identity. Put another way they’re the clothes you own that make you want to puff out your chest, hold your head higher and shout ‘this is me’. Connect with them and then ask yourself why? Why do these do this for me and then seek out more of that!

5. PLAY DRESS UP 

Time to have fun with your dressing and pull out pieces that you’ve not worn in a while, match new  colours together, borrow your sisters dress and outfit with your wardrobe. Whatever it is to get your creative juices flowing and champion the power of  ‘I wonder if this might work together’.

6. GO BACK TO SCHOOL

Until you understand yourself & discover more about you, your clothing is redundant. Functional at best. Knowledge is the key. Take on learning about style with an open and forgiving heart. Remove the need to just ‘buy more’ or ‘buy new’ but start learning what suits your figure and your colourings by becoming more aware of when you get compliments or when you feel that power in your clothes.

Mindful dressing is the key and connecting with our own truth is at the centre of that.

If now is the time for self discovery and you are ready to enter down that path, a life out of the shadows with a confident sense of your true identity is a lot easier and a far more fulfilling way to live.

For daily #louloustylelessons come join me on Instagram or drop me an email if you are ready to discover how powerful rediscovering your identity can be.

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My Mumbod reality and the desire to get into my pre-baby jeans

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20 months ago I was overweight, powerless, lost and helpless. A very confused new mum definitely not fitting into her pre-pregnancy jeans, in fact hardly fitting into her maternity jeans. My head was full of depressive, limiting thoughts, my heart felt overwhelmed and my body felt heavy, lethargic and foreign.

My life had turned upside down, everything had changed; I’d moved cities, bought a new house, left my career to start my own business and had my daughter, Lola. I put on 3.5 stone whilst pregnant mainly down to my love of mint magnums and ice cream and following her birth I didn’t recognise my reflection in the mirror. The life changes I had made were meant to enrich me but instead I felt trapped; trapped in my body, my mind and my home. I was suffering with anxiety attacks, a constant ball of worry and full of desperation. I no longer knew who I was and I didn’t recognise my reflection.

At a time that I thought I would feel more connected to myself, my femininity, my future, I felt disgusted by myself. I was stiff, heavy and exploding with rashes and spots. My stretch marks on my stomach were enflamed and on fire, my thighs rubbed and my stomach was a soft empty sack that hung over my caesarean scar. I stupidly thought my body would just pop back but the obsession with those mint magnums and ice creams were clinging to me for dear life!

I was in shock and I was very frightened that I would be stuck in this strangers body forever. I felt low and at a loss and disconnected from myself and my daughter. I tried eating well but nothing seemed to change. I kept hearing that if you breast fed the weight would fall off. I struggled with breast feeding, managing 10 weeks and in fact my weight kept going up.

I went to the doctors for help, perhaps it was my thyroid to blame, perhaps there was another reason but I was told that ‘it sometimes happens when you get older, you know when you look at photos of old school friends and they are just bigger, it happens’.

I felt very despondent, He’d given up on me, I had nearly too. Feeling very low, very emotional but still with a touch of resilience I refused to back down.

So I started searching for HOPE to find the old me. I started with my mindset rather than my body. I couldn’t cope with feeling like a martyr and depressed, this wasn’t me. I started reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic.

This quote in the book stuck with me:

“And when you sense a faint potentiality for happiness after such dark times you must grab onto the ankles of that happiness and not let go until it drags you face-first out of the dirt – this is not selfishness, but obligation. You were given life; it is your duty to find something beautiful within life no matter how slight.”

I stopped watching the news, i couldn’t cope with that negativity. I then started looking after the inside, committing to eating one healthy meal a day and said no to cake where I could. I realised i was doing ALOT of self soothing with sugar and booze, more than I wanted to admit and so I cut back. Social media makes ‘wine a clock’ and ‘cake time” the mothers accepted nemesis but it wasn’t working for me.

Then I moved onto my body, I started getting my heart rate up, not just walking but introducing a 7min app workout in the house. I decided to show up for me. Small steps each day, which didn’t feel like much but it was all I could commit to with a new baby and I started to see some small progress.

My weight started to drop, very very slowly at first and then I found that my anxiety started to lessen, my hormones start to balance again, I started to feel a little lighter about the future. Positivity was creeping back in.

So where am I now?

Lola is about to turn 2. The benchmark of trying to get to my pre-baby weight and back into those pre-pregnancy jeans has happened in fact I am now stronger & healthier in mind and body than I was pre-Lola. I’ve lost 46lbs in total and I’m in better shape than I’ve ever been. The biggest change? I’ve learnt how to be consistent for the first time in my life, I am committed to me. I love doing Crossfit, although only go twice a week as that’s all I can commit to but that consistency makes a difference. Better than 4 times one week, none the next (the old me!). Creating these positive new habits have helped to built my new normal, to be a strong role-model for Lola but perhaps most importantly to be a strong role model for myself. This experience as hard as it was has created a more resilient me.

I’ve come to realise that its not about getting back to the old you but in fact its about creating the new you. The new improved, upgraded version. Life is about experiences, good and bad and how you bounce back from them. Motherhood is not easy but my goodness it has made me.

My name is Loulou Storey and I’m a style and confidence coach. I help women take control of their lives by feeling confident with their style and help them rewrite their own narratives and I have recently rewritten my own. I invite you to do the same.

Check out the original post here at The Huffington Post

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10 Secrets that will Help You Feel like You have a New Wardrobe.

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A lot of us wish that we dressed with more character, style and passaz and blame our clothes and lack of time as the trouble makers for our uninspired appearance.
I am here to help you perk up your style and help you realise that there is a lot more excitement in your wardrobe than you give it credit for.
Here are some of my secrets on how to be a little more creative with your style from the clothes you already own:
  1. Give a crap. You are not going to start looking good, unless you start to care, even if just a little. You’ve got to put in a little effort and I promise you, you will reap the benefits.
  2. Clear the crap. Do you know what you own? There are probably hidden gems in there. So put some time aside and go through what you own and get rid of clothes that you are bored of/don’t fit/make you feel uncomfortable.
  3. Wear something old. That dress that you keep saying, ‘I’ll wear it one day’, bite the bullet and wear it tomorrow. I it doesn’t make you feel wonderful then say ‘ta ta for now’.
  4. Dress how you want to feel. Pick your intention for the day, how do you want to feel today. Empowered? Happy? Fearless? Sassy? Whatever it may be dress for that feeling rather than what you currently feel.
  5. #30secondstyle. Take an extra 30 seconds to put on a necklace/pair of earrings/scarf/bracelet, apply some lippy, those small daily touches will lift any outfit and that attention to detail will give you the character you desire. Join us on Instagram and share your quick style fix.
  6. Make a sandwich. ‘Sandwiching’ is wearing all one colour e.g. navy with a flash of a complimentary colour e.g. Yellow. Try a new combo of your clothes today.
  7. Print clashing is a really fun way to be more creative with the clothes you already own. Follow my Pinterest to board for inspiration.
  8. Look Up. Keep your head up and appreciate the beauty that is all around and spot what others are wearing and try and emulate it.
  9. Tailor your life. Get the most out of your wardrobe and feel more put together by wearing your dressy clothes everyday. Add a pair of high tops and a casual t-shirt to your smart trousers for a fun but considered everyday look.
  10. Have fun. Fashion should be expressive, style should be about you. If you wear clothes you love, get a little more dressed up than normal and try new combo’s of clothing that already exist in your wardrobe you will find you will start to shine. For inspiration follow me on Instagram.
You may also be interested in my upcoming 5 week online style course starting 1st February. If you’d like to learn more about reigniting your personal style, getting clarity on what works for YOU, exuding inner confidence and make getting dressed everyday effortless, then this course is for you. Click here to find out more and start your personal style transformation.